I am writing this letter to you with a deep sense of anguish.
Today you have declined to marry me because my family and me wanted the dowry to facilitate our happily ever after.
To my utter dismay, you rejected me!
This is unbelievable!
How could you?
How the f*** you had the audacity to decline my proposal?
Let me impress upon you the gravity of your loss that emanates from you rejecting me as your future husband on the flimsy ground of “not willing to pay dowry”.
You see I am an extremely well settled professional.
I work for a stupid blue-collar Indian software body shop where I, along with my one hundred thousand colleagues, work 24 X 7 to collectively promote mediocrity by performing electronic scavenging tasks for businesses based out of the “white world”.
My future is bright as I aspire to go to the “white-world” soon and I plan to settle in those parts of the world in the distant future.
I swear I don’t aspire to learn any of the cosmopolitan inclusive cultural lifestyle of the west but I aspire to immigrate just to dig more gold.
As I calculate, if I spend X years in the “white-world”, I shall amass enough wealth to buy a Farm House in Gurgaon and a Mercedes and thereby fulfill my life’s ultimate goal.
So, by declining my offer your future stands bleak, as you will be relegated to the job of a housewife in some dingy B grade town of North India- married to some desi oaf.
Now you also stand to miss out on being a part of my great family.
Our family is a very close-knit unit and you always have the pleasure of the company of my parents 24 X 7.
Privacy is a western concept and we don’t care about stupid western views.
But hey, we have an exceptionally well-decorated completely western style home in Gurgaon!
There are air-conditioners and 40” televisions in each of the 4 bedrooms and we even have a bar- though I must admit I have no clue what is the difference between whiskey and single malt or Martini and Margarita, beer and lager and so on….
We are very modern but we always consult vaastu to ensure each thing is kept at a place where the grand celestial design is not annulled.
We are very scientific and forward-looking but we completely believe in astrology and we have to find auspicious dates for doing all the important works.
We have all the latest “must-have” appliances but I challenge you to find a single book anywhere at home!
The closest things to a book that we have at home are cheque-books!
Books are boring and none of our family has the habit of reading books- they are only useful for passing examinations.
But we are very well educated (from D grade mushrooming colleges of course) and we speak excellent English- though we pronounce October as Uk-too-Bur, station as Us-te-ssan and so on…
I am proud that no one in our family has any hobbies.
Our only collective interest, obsession, passion is Money.
We are a bunch of living-breathing-f***ing price tags and we love to boast of that at all times- like the house we live in costs 1.25 crores rupees ($0.25 million)- the bar costs 200,000 rupees, the rug costs 40,000, the sofa set costs 80,000- the milk jar costs…..
Money is our real god- the reason why we are all alive and why we are here in this world…
My elder brother (henceforth called Bhaiya) is a great money machine.
Bhaiya works for a same type of company I work for and also has a surreptitious side business- though the side business has a conflict of interest with his current job- but who cares- he mints money!
Bhaiya has an offshore bogus bank account and he has 40 lac rupees ($ 100,000) as black money in that (who cares about color in post apartheid era, it is money after all…)
He makes money in his sleep and dreams, eats, talks, breaths money at all times.
Bhaiya married his girlfriend but still managed to arm twist 800,000 rupees in the process- such the money making genius!
So, by not accepting my match you are sure to be cast to eternal despair of destitution of being married to some honest wager.
Finally, why did we demand dowry?
You see we married off my younger sister last year and we paid a hefty dowry there.
We also bought this great 1.25 crore home.
With so much outflow, I am sure you would agree, we need some inflows and what better than getting some dowry?
After all, this would have been your home post the marriage and should you not be looking out for the collective well-being of your would-be-in-laws?
Consider this, your father would be our relative post the marriage, so is his money not a part of ours in the larger context?
You must be weak in logic Girl!
And then again, I welcome you to look at the demands we forwarded.
As my marriageable resume in the matchmaking portal says- “No Dowry Demand”, we only wanted you to bear the full cost of the engagement ceremony, marriage function and the wedding reception- that is surely a legitimate demand after all I come from the groom’s side, don’t I?
And all we asked for you to pay for the small insignificant expenses like all the food and drinks, 3 day lodging arrangements, air travel for our 150 strong marriage party, entertainment options along with the usual ubiquitous deliverables like jewelry, clothing, gifts etc.
This is surely not a demand of dowry and there is no reason to over-react, right?
Wasn’t this a small price to pay for the awesomeness my family and me could have brought in your sorry miserable life?
But still you rejected me!
This is completely unjust and uncalled for.
Let me tell you, this is ultimately your loss as you are being deprived of the connubial bliss that you would have encountered with my cultured-modern-educated-wealthy family and me.
You lose girl, you lose big- now deal with it!
Yours Greedy and Needy,
The Awesome Boy
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